I tried to stutter out some words, but none came. A knowing, sly look came over mom’s face. “Prakash, the videos weren’t all I found. After watching some of them, I decided to search your room for other things…” My heart was pounding. Oh my god no, I thought. “I found a scrapbook with lots of cut-out pictures… more good taste in women, honey.” Mom’s eyes were locked with mine. “I also read what you wrote in it… and what you wrote in the stories with it.” I almost passed out. Why was she torturing me like this? Why not just gets it over with? Then I felt mom take my hand. She looked deep into my eyes. “I came right then when I read your stories, honey. You’ve been my friend, my best friend for so long, and when I read your stories, it finally dawned on me how you truly felt about me… and I realized I felt… the same way… about you.” My emotions did a 180. My head was spinning. And my cock was pounding in my shorts. I wanted to say so many things, but they wouldn’t come out. “Mom…” I said in a soft moan.
“Oh, baby,” she whispered, and we hugged. The thrills that shot through me from our embrace were better than anything I had ever felt before was. “You’re the most perfect man I’ve ever known,” she said, her breath tickling in my ear, driving me wild. “You’ve always been here for me, and now… now that you are all grown up… oh god, Ricky… I love you… I… need you…” I finally found my voice. “I need you too, mom. I love you so much.” My hands seemed to work with a mind of their own, rubbing her back at first, then sliding down, beneath her sweatshirt, to palm and squeeze her curvy ass cheeks. I felt her tremble with desire. “Oh baby, yes… momma’s wanted you for so long…” She didn’t resist when I pulled the soft grey sweatshirt up over her head, finally exposing her long-awaited breasts to me. I just gazed at them for several moments. They were big and full with dark areolas the size of half-dollars and erect nipples as big as the ends of my pinkies. Only sagging slightly, they were dusted along the tops with many sun-born freckles, which only made them more desirable.
“You want to suck them, don’t you honey? I can remember when I breast-fed you, how much pleasure it gave me… but this will be a different pleasure. Come here, baby. Let momma take care of you.” I moaned in anticipation and desire, and lay across her body, taking one of her breasts in hand, kneading it, and caressing it. The sound mom made drove me on, and I finally rested my head on her and took the fat nipple in my mouth, sucking softly. “Oh yeah, baby, that’s it… suck my nipple. Oh god Prakash, you’re so good…” I just moaned and kept on sucking, taking her other nipple in my free hand and rolling it between my thumb and forefinger, delighting in feeling her body reacts to me. Both of us were trembling, and it added to the emotion of the moment. “This is so perfect,” she purred, stroking my head, “this was meant to be.” My cock by this time could take no more. I moaned loudly, and sat up, taking my cock in my hands, stroking fast and furious. But mom put her hands on mine, and shook her head. “Prakash, let mother take care of that.” Then she pushed me back softly until I was only propped up on my elbows. “I’ve been waiting to do this for SUCH a long time, honey,” she said, then took my cock in one hand and leaned over, wrapping her lips around my cockhead.
It was incredible. The pleasure just shot through me like lightning. I threw back my head and yelled from the sensations slamming my brain from my mom’s sucking. I looked down at her and the full impact of what was happening hit me. This was my mom, my MOTHER, hot, naked, aroused beyond belief, giving me the blowjob of a lifetime. Every fantasy I had ever had about her could not compare to the reality of right now! Mom pulled my cock out of her and looked up at me, but she kept stroking it. Her hair had gotten a little mussed, but it just made her look sexier. Her eyes were smouldering and her pouty lips were wet. “Cum in my mouth, Prakash. Momma wants to taste your hot cum.” Then she bent back down and swallowed me whole, which was amazing, considering I’m a good seven and a half inches. Her eyes remained locked on mine as she sucked, and I couldn’t hold back any longer. I grabbed her head with both hands, and with a long shout of pure ecstasy, I came in my mother’s mouth, thrusting my hips up and pulling her head down. She did her best to contain my jism, but some of it dribbled out, from the corners of her mouth and down her chin. I came and came what felt like a gallon of man juice, but mom swallowed down every bit of it, and licked up what had spurted out of her lips.
“Oh god, Prakash, that was good,” she panted, her voice husky and erotic. “But now I need you… I really need you… inside me!” With that she climbed up and straddled me, squatting just over my still-hard cock. I could see her pussy lips, glistening wet, and poised mere inches over my throbbing rod. Then, with an animalistic moan, she thrust her hips down onto mine, impaling her cunt onto my big fuckstick. “Oh god yes!!!” she screamed, throwing her head back, her long beautiful hair flying. “Fuck me Prakash! Fuck momma hard!!!” I was as aroused as she was, and grabbed her by the hips, thrusting my own upwards at the same time. I felt my cock slam home, sliding deep inside the same woman who gave birth to me, raised me, loved me like no woman ever could. Every thrust made her grunt with pure lust, and made her big breasts bounce and jiggle. It didn’t take long for me to reach the point of no return again, and I roared in pure ecstasy as I came inside my mother, feeling her tighten her cunt around my spasming cock, milking every last drop of cum from it, gripping it tightly as if she’d never let go. I finally stopped thrusting and let go for her hips, exhausted.
But mom just leaned forward with that erotic gleam in her eyes and purred out huskily, “I want more, baby… momma wants more of her boy’s big cock.” With that, she sat back up and began to grind her hips back and forth, up and down my sensitive boner. I screamed in pleasure, grabbing her ass cheeks, feeling her puckered asshole with my fingertips. Driven beyond any kind of hesitation, I slid a finger inside mom’s asshole, and heard her moan long and loud. “That’s it Prakash honey… oh god, fingerfuck my asshole baby!!!” I went to town, sliding another finger into her tight bung. She’d definitely never been fucked in the ass, but we would change that… Mom was going wild; bucking and bouncing like a seasoned whore. “Touch me Prakash! Make me cum! Make mommy cum baby!!!” I pulled my fingers out of her asshole and brought both hands to the front of her, the left one going to her breasts, and my right hand seeking out and finding her swollen, wet clit. I immediately went to work on it with my thumb, kneading it like there was no tomorrow while at the same time taking turns pinching her nipples with my other hand. And yet again, I felt my orgasm approaching.
But it was mom’s turn to explode. A moan of pure sexuality began in her throat and became a scream of absolute orgasmic pleasure. Her cunt tightened on my cock like a vice and that was all it took to make me cum again. We screamed in pleasure together, cumming as one, now joined by more than just our incredible mother-son bond of love. When it finally ended and the seething emotions had quieted, mom laid down on my chest, my softening cock still inside her dripping pussy. She slowly ran her fingers through my hair, kissing my forehead gently. I stroked her back lightly, still amazed at what had just taken place. Mom seemed to realize what was on my mind, and she smiled. “Don’t worry, baby… this is just the beginning. You’ll sleep in here with me from now on… I have so much planned for us.” All I could do was groan in pleasure and wonder what tomorrow would bring
How is the bad guy supposed to woo the good girl? What should he tell her and how? WriterAnnie Zaidi passes on some secrets
We may be fast transforming into a forward-thinking society, but the 'good Indian girl', it seems, still has to deal with all sorts of presumptions and prejudices. Addressing this slight, authors Annie Zaidi and Smriti Ravindra in their book, The bad boy's guide to the good Indian girl, present a collection of funny, irreverent stories of the lives and loves of smart, feisty girls from the subcontinent. Here, Zaidi writes for Mumbai Mirror and hands out the guys a few hints to get the good girl: First things first. This isn't really about bad boys (We don't know any. God-promise); this is about good Indian girls. And you should read this if you are the unsuspecting guy who walked up to a sweet girl, but when you asked for her name, she treated you as if you were a pervert. Or are you one of those who gave a girl a fancy present but she was too nervous to accept it? Are you married to a girl who loves you madly but who resents your harmless, homely sister-inlaw? Why? One of the reasons we decided to do such a book was that so many men complain that they simply cannot understand women, particularly Indian women. We kind of sympathise because we know there's cause for confusion and resentment.
For instance, when we were undergraduates (and living at a very strict girls' college), we had instructions not to talk to boys when we went outside. Some girls obeyed. Some didn't. Those who talked to boys would give out fake names, fake addresses. It must have been frustrating for boys when they discovered the lie, but on the other hand, what's a good girl to do?
If the boys had real names, real phone numbers, they would try to call. The hostel warden would find out. Parents would be summoned. The authorities would tell them that their daughters were up to no good. The girls would be shamed in front of their families and families would be shamed in front of the college authorities. Did we really have a choice?
When Smriti and I began to talk of what kind of stories we wanted to tell, we asked ourselves this question: How does one get labeled 'bad' or 'not very good' or at least 'not a good Indian girl'?
We also asked others and most of us agreed that clothes have a lot to do with the stereotype. So does body shape. A stereotypical good Indian girl is expected to not just dress 'within limit' but also to somehow make her body look, well, restrained, cautious. 'Limits', of course, are very hard to define. It is not enough to wear a sari, for instance. If you look supersexy in a sari, then even that might earn you a bit of social censure.
So, when a girl spends hours trying to make up her mind about what to wear, remember that she isn't just worried about looking good. She is also worried about appearing to be good.
Remember that she is expected to place others' interests above her own (but that doesn't mean fighting for human rights in war zones; it means eating matarpaneer even though she hates it). Above all, she is expected to look happy and content.
Remember, that for most good Indian girls, to be interested in boys is considered healthy. But if you act on that interest, you enter a grey area. How much interest can you show without suffering for it? Can you go out drinking late at night? Can you buy him a drink, without being laughed at for being 'desperate'? Can you sleep with him and still expect him to treat you with respect?
So if you want to bowl over a good Indian girl, the best thing to do is to treat all girls with respect. Not just your girl. You must show respect for all girls. NEVER say things like 'x girl had it coming' or 'y is a nympho' or 'girls who smoke are more likely to put out'. If she herself says such things, YOU must gently shush her, and remind her that all girls should be treated with respect.
And NEVER ever hint that there's a separate set of rules for girls and boys. That you are allowed certain privileges, like hairy legs or bare chests, while she isn't. She knows the rules. She will hate you for reminding her.
Do NOT ask about her sexual history. If it doesn't matter, then why ask? Let her volunteer information if she wants to. You must not ask, even if she has asked you. Remember, we play by different rules and that a girl's secrecy is often the only defense she has.
Many young men wonder why we care so much about being seen as a 'good girl'. We care because if we are seen as not-good girls, we are not treated with respect. Our families are not treated with respect. And because, when things go seriously bad, even our pain and outrage is turned into a weapon against us. We see this happening again and again through news reports about girls who are assaulted, or harassed. The first question everyone asks is - What time was it? Why was she out alone? Did she know the boy(s)? What was she wearing? Did she live alone? Why?
There are plenty of other reasons why we care about a 'good Indian girl' image, but remember this - a great web of morality confronts us. Most girls end up breaking some rules. And what's more, most girls want to break the rules. The challenge lies in snatching a bit of joy and freedom for ourselves and not getting caught.
Casual sex: Feel good factor Use your tongue to add sizzle to your sex life First-time sex too can be smooth
Does sex on-the-side give you the much needed kick? Let's explore... 
Aanchal Mehra, a management student agrees, "It's not about being promiscuous, but having sex with a stranger can actually lift your mood. It happened with me once when I was going through a very low phase. I went to a friend's party and hooked up with this guy. We had a blast that night and the next day we parted as friends. I felt desirable and wanted once again, and frankly I felt very happy."
The trend is recent and something that picks up from the frantic pace of urban living. Often hectic schedules and lack of socialising leaves one feeling adrift and sidelined. Thus people draw support in whichever form they can or so observes, psychologist Surendra Mehta, Care clinic, "Casual sex is on the rise because of factors like loneliness, peer pressure, living away from one's home. It happens when there's no faith left in oneself. Think of someone who doesn't have a great job or a fulfilling relationship or lacks friends to bail him/her out in times of crisis. It is then that they fall on measures that they assume can lift their spirits for some time. Sex is more like an addiction just as people tend to eat a lot when depressed."
Women don't get carried away
Hollywood too swears by the benefits of casual sexual encounters. Leading actress Cameron Diazfor instance recently stated that there isn't a better way to get back in shape than hitting the sack. Studies too have revealed that women are less likely to regret an impromptu fling, if they feel gratified sexually afterwards. Most women don't equate a romp in the sack with a walk down the aisle. Surveys reveal that over 52 per cent believe their most recent casual encounter to be 'just a one-time thing'.
Says actor/anchor Pooja Bedi, "Having sex with someone you don't love doesn't necessarily mean you are committing a grave sin. The best part of today's society is that it is beginning to accept female sexuality. People have various things to lift their spirits, this is one of them, so be it, and it's human after all to crave for touch. And women, just like men want to enjoy their bodies. So there isn't anything wrong in indulging in casual sex as long as you know where to draw the line."
Manish Singh, a software professional, points out, "I think the key is that everyone wants to matter, especially to their sex partners. We have created a world in which we treat sex as a private recreational activity, with no moral or social significance. But when sex is a recreational activity, my partner becomes equivalent to a consumer good. And we all know what we do with consumer goods that cease to satisfy us beyond a point, we get rid of them. In this world of consumer sex, it is socially acceptable to find pleasure with people you don't love. But yes, no one likes to end up feeling used."
Casual sex to reduce boredom
Doctors claim that a session in bed with an unknown face can actually spice up your personal life. Although none would advise it, but the fact remains that it jolts you back out of your boredom and pushes you to being innovative. Says a doctor on condition of anonymity, "I have had patients who find no interest in having sex with their husbands/wives. In fact, they complain of being turned off by the very thought of it. However, a torrid fling outside marriage breathes new life into a sagging relationship with one's spouse. Does it really matter if you get back your stamina and feel good about yourself, even if your spouse was unaware of what went on behind his back?"
A recent study done by the University of Chicago on the sexual lives of adults reveals that housewives bored by their routine look for affairs outside their marriage. In fact, a one-night-stand often reignites the lost spark that may have gotten snuffed out due to marriage and monotony, a la Tabu who played the rebellious wife in the Mahesh Manjrekar's film Astitva.
The real picture
However not all is as hunky dory as you would like to believe. As Mehta puts it, "Sex with no strings attached is a great way to regain your confidence. However, not many people can sustain it. There comes point when you begin to see the worthlessness of the whole enterprise. Despite how much we claim to be liberated, people need a caring relationship all the time. Sex is an act that is over in minutes and cannot ever replace emotions like love and care."
Neerja Tanna (name changed), a journalist, reveals, "I completely believed in casual sex and felt good about it. But there came a point when I began to dread the act. It wasn't the act per se, but the time when it would get over. If the sex wasn't great, it was ok; but when it was exceptionally good, it was difficult to extract myself from that situation. And how do I not look forward to meeting that person again? So in a way I started feeling petrified about having sex with just about anyone."
According to psychologist Suparna Puri, women often get attached while having sex. The hormone Oxytocin or the attachment hormone makes them feel closer to their partner. So she advises, "Be clear about who you want to indulge yourself with". Puri believes it's alright to be daring and adventurous, but warns that the high doesn't last for long. Soon there is a sense of wanting to pull out and starting again.
As Tanna recalls, "I don't believe in casual sex anymore. Because I believe there is more to it than just plain fun. So today I have decided to seek pleasure and adventure in other things. And sex can wait till I get married." Well point taken.
Male power
In this entire cry about women and sex, it seems men are completely pushed away from the limelight. Could the reason be that sex gets easily associated with men and thus requires not much thought? Says Atul Suri,a consultant with an MNC, "A general conception is that men are more interested in sex. However, I think nowadays women are also free spirited while men are becoming conservative. I can indulge in sexual activities with anyone, but I don't want to. My friends of course do, but I think their outlook is changing as well. Today a guy wants to be just a one-woman-man, both physically and mentally."
Explains Puri, "For men it is no longer about sex and affairs. Men today concentrate on developing healthy relationships with the opposite sex. That could also arise from the fact that they are aware that the society is open to men having casual sex, so it isn't a big deal. However for women to do the same there is the pleasure of breaking barriers and also a sense of power. So it's more of women wanting to try out new things and explore areas so far a taboo to them."
The balance though is heavily tilted towards women. And though the freedom of body is a heady feeling, yet there are certain precautions to be kept in mind:
1. Get yourself checked for AIDS and STD frequently if you are indulging in casual sex.
2. Always, always use a condom or other precautions while having sex.
3. Having a one-night-stand is okay as long as you are consciously aware of what you are doing. You don't want to fall into the wrong hands and get beaten up.
4. Steer clear of strangers who you think come across as "weird". It is better to follow your gut than being sorry later.
5. If you are someone who gets carried away emotionally, then such affairs are definitely not for you.
6. Men take heed and check the background of the person you are going out with. You could easily be led to drugs if you don't watch out.
7. If you feel any kind of discomfort physically after an intercourse, see a doctor immediately.
8. Visit a psychiatrist if you think you are going through an emotional vacuum and need help.
9. Speak to friends, family and close ones if you think your loneliness is the reason for you to hunt partners.
10. Believe in love and care because nothing works better than these.
Want to add sizzle to your sex life? Use your tongue! This organ of the body has great potential if used correctly. There are places that can stimulate you and arouse your senses to the peak. The tongue can be a great asset in improving your sex life and can heighten your pleasure ten-fold.
Using a tongue is just another great way to have a passionate kiss. It can be used in unexpected areas to bring in more passionbetween the two. Foreplay is a major factor for great orgasm. If you want to please your man, work your way from below ie, toes to chest. It's the best way to leave him wanting for more even before he knows. Toes are a very sensitive part and shouldn't be avoided. Start with the licking of the toe and then graduate upwards. He will be asking for more that are caused with the help of the tongue.
Man's heart is directly linked to his stomach. All you need to do is work it up the right way. One of the most ignored yet erogenous spot is the naval. This area is highly sensitive. Use your tongue slowly and steady at that area and start licking him on his stomach and naval. And, you see the difference in no time.
The chest is one place where you can experiment. Men are always proud of their chest and making him feel wanted will captivate him. It will make him feel more confident and appreciated. Stimulating his chest with your tongue can create magic inside him.
The neck and ears play a very crucial part. These zones are highly sensitive. Using your tongue in these areas can get it going for you sooner than you think it will.
Just as Osho says, "Be a witness of sex too. Don't be the controller of it. Don't try to forcibly bring it under control, remain a witness of it too. Just as you are a witness of everything else, remain a witness of sex too" It is important to not view it as a bad thing.
A sizzling sex life can be achieved by doing these simple actions. It should be bias free and if your partner likes it, what's the harm?
Some spices can enhance your lustful performance
India is the land of spices and the second-most populous country in the world. Though the two facts sound disarrayed, they are actually linked! Research proves that our sex life gets affected (and spiced up) by some spices.
Fenugreek seeds: Saponins which can be found in fenugreek seeds play a role in increasing the production of testosterone, the male hormones, which, in turn, causes the raise in male libido.
Cardamom: These green wonders increase energy and relieve fatigue, and help you rock your love making process.
Clove: They heat up the body and maybe that's what increases the hotness quotient on bed!
Fennel: Saunf, as they are called in Hindi, contain an estrogen-like substance (estirol) that turns out libido. So careful before you grab a handful of it at a restaurant after dinner.
Ginseng: It helps improve male erectile dysfunction (ED)
Saffron: There's a reason why old Hindi films had saasumas forcing bahus to add saffron to the milk on the first night. And you thought it was just for a fair child!
Nutmeg: It's one of the most popular natural aphrodisiacs. Research proves that nutmeg has the same effect on mating behavior as Viagra. Sprinkle some in your kheer for a dirty night!
Cloves: They boost your energy levels. They also have one of the best aromatherapy scents that help improve your sexual behaviour.
Garlic: Eating green chilies with garlic is an old (tried and tested) way of enjoying sex for a longer period. Peel off its top layers, crush cloves and then fry in butter, and your partner is ready to be a nutter!
Ginger: Garlic's 'g' brother helps you tingle the 'G' spot with ease. It increases sex drive and stimulates sexual performance.
So before you start your performance, hit to the kitchen. Get lusty and spicy!
A herb used to add flavour to Indian curries can also spice up our sex lives, according to a new study.
Researchers found that men taking fenugreekcan boost their sex drive by at least a quarter.
Sixty healthy men aged between 25 and 52 took an extract of the herb twice a day for six weeks.
Their libido levels were monitored using a scoring system to assess any changes after three and six weeks.
Within six weeks, their scores had soared by an average of 16.1 to 20.6, a 28 per cent rise, reports the Daily Mail .
Meanwhile, another group of men taking dummy pills saw their scores fall.
Fenugreek seeds contain compounds called saponins which are thought to stimulate production of male sex hormones including testosterone.
The tests were carried out by researchers from the Centre for Integrative Clinical and Molecular Medicine in Brisbane, Australia, who said: 'This study has demonstrated that there was significant improvement in sexual function and performance following treatment.'
Aanchal Mehra, a management student agrees, "It's not about being promiscuous, but having sex with a stranger can actually lift your mood. It happened with me once when I was going through a very low phase. I went to a friend's party and hooked up with this guy. We had a blast that night and the next day we parted as friends. I felt desirable and wanted once again, and frankly I felt very happy."
The trend is recent and something that picks up from the frantic pace of urban living. Often hectic schedules and lack of socialising leaves one feeling adrift and sidelined. Thus people draw support in whichever form they can or so observes, psychologist Surendra Mehta, Care clinic, "Casual sex is on the rise because of factors like loneliness, peer pressure, living away from one's home. It happens when there's no faith left in oneself. Think of someone who doesn't have a great job or a fulfilling relationship or lacks friends to bail him/her out in times of crisis. It is then that they fall on measures that they assume can lift their spirits for some time. Sex is more like an addiction just as people tend to eat a lot when depressed."
Women don't get carried away
Hollywood too swears by the benefits of casual sexual encounters. Leading actress Cameron Diazfor instance recently stated that there isn't a better way to get back in shape than hitting the sack. Studies too have revealed that women are less likely to regret an impromptu fling, if they feel gratified sexually afterwards. Most women don't equate a romp in the sack with a walk down the aisle. Surveys reveal that over 52 per cent believe their most recent casual encounter to be 'just a one-time thing'.
Says actor/anchor Pooja Bedi, "Having sex with someone you don't love doesn't necessarily mean you are committing a grave sin. The best part of today's society is that it is beginning to accept female sexuality. People have various things to lift their spirits, this is one of them, so be it, and it's human after all to crave for touch. And women, just like men want to enjoy their bodies. So there isn't anything wrong in indulging in casual sex as long as you know where to draw the line."
Manish Singh, a software professional, points out, "I think the key is that everyone wants to matter, especially to their sex partners. We have created a world in which we treat sex as a private recreational activity, with no moral or social significance. But when sex is a recreational activity, my partner becomes equivalent to a consumer good. And we all know what we do with consumer goods that cease to satisfy us beyond a point, we get rid of them. In this world of consumer sex, it is socially acceptable to find pleasure with people you don't love. But yes, no one likes to end up feeling used."
Casual sex to reduce boredom
Doctors claim that a session in bed with an unknown face can actually spice up your personal life. Although none would advise it, but the fact remains that it jolts you back out of your boredom and pushes you to being innovative. Says a doctor on condition of anonymity, "I have had patients who find no interest in having sex with their husbands/wives. In fact, they complain of being turned off by the very thought of it. However, a torrid fling outside marriage breathes new life into a sagging relationship with one's spouse. Does it really matter if you get back your stamina and feel good about yourself, even if your spouse was unaware of what went on behind his back?"
A recent study done by the University of Chicago on the sexual lives of adults reveals that housewives bored by their routine look for affairs outside their marriage. In fact, a one-night-stand often reignites the lost spark that may have gotten snuffed out due to marriage and monotony, a la Tabu who played the rebellious wife in the Mahesh Manjrekar's film Astitva.
The real picture
However not all is as hunky dory as you would like to believe. As Mehta puts it, "Sex with no strings attached is a great way to regain your confidence. However, not many people can sustain it. There comes point when you begin to see the worthlessness of the whole enterprise. Despite how much we claim to be liberated, people need a caring relationship all the time. Sex is an act that is over in minutes and cannot ever replace emotions like love and care."
Neerja Tanna (name changed), a journalist, reveals, "I completely believed in casual sex and felt good about it. But there came a point when I began to dread the act. It wasn't the act per se, but the time when it would get over. If the sex wasn't great, it was ok; but when it was exceptionally good, it was difficult to extract myself from that situation. And how do I not look forward to meeting that person again? So in a way I started feeling petrified about having sex with just about anyone."
According to psychologist Suparna Puri, women often get attached while having sex. The hormone Oxytocin or the attachment hormone makes them feel closer to their partner. So she advises, "Be clear about who you want to indulge yourself with". Puri believes it's alright to be daring and adventurous, but warns that the high doesn't last for long. Soon there is a sense of wanting to pull out and starting again.
As Tanna recalls, "I don't believe in casual sex anymore. Because I believe there is more to it than just plain fun. So today I have decided to seek pleasure and adventure in other things. And sex can wait till I get married." Well point taken.
Male power
In this entire cry about women and sex, it seems men are completely pushed away from the limelight. Could the reason be that sex gets easily associated with men and thus requires not much thought? Says Atul Suri,a consultant with an MNC, "A general conception is that men are more interested in sex. However, I think nowadays women are also free spirited while men are becoming conservative. I can indulge in sexual activities with anyone, but I don't want to. My friends of course do, but I think their outlook is changing as well. Today a guy wants to be just a one-woman-man, both physically and mentally."
Explains Puri, "For men it is no longer about sex and affairs. Men today concentrate on developing healthy relationships with the opposite sex. That could also arise from the fact that they are aware that the society is open to men having casual sex, so it isn't a big deal. However for women to do the same there is the pleasure of breaking barriers and also a sense of power. So it's more of women wanting to try out new things and explore areas so far a taboo to them."
The balance though is heavily tilted towards women. And though the freedom of body is a heady feeling, yet there are certain precautions to be kept in mind:
1. Get yourself checked for AIDS and STD frequently if you are indulging in casual sex.
2. Always, always use a condom or other precautions while having sex.
3. Having a one-night-stand is okay as long as you are consciously aware of what you are doing. You don't want to fall into the wrong hands and get beaten up.
4. Steer clear of strangers who you think come across as "weird". It is better to follow your gut than being sorry later.
5. If you are someone who gets carried away emotionally, then such affairs are definitely not for you.
6. Men take heed and check the background of the person you are going out with. You could easily be led to drugs if you don't watch out.
7. If you feel any kind of discomfort physically after an intercourse, see a doctor immediately.
8. Visit a psychiatrist if you think you are going through an emotional vacuum and need help.
9. Speak to friends, family and close ones if you think your loneliness is the reason for you to hunt partners.
10. Believe in love and care because nothing works better than these.
Want to add sizzle to your sex life? Use your tongue! This organ of the body has great potential if used correctly. There are places that can stimulate you and arouse your senses to the peak. The tongue can be a great asset in improving your sex life and can heighten your pleasure ten-fold.
Using a tongue is just another great way to have a passionate kiss. It can be used in unexpected areas to bring in more passionbetween the two. Foreplay is a major factor for great orgasm. If you want to please your man, work your way from below ie, toes to chest. It's the best way to leave him wanting for more even before he knows. Toes are a very sensitive part and shouldn't be avoided. Start with the licking of the toe and then graduate upwards. He will be asking for more that are caused with the help of the tongue.
Man's heart is directly linked to his stomach. All you need to do is work it up the right way. One of the most ignored yet erogenous spot is the naval. This area is highly sensitive. Use your tongue slowly and steady at that area and start licking him on his stomach and naval. And, you see the difference in no time.
The chest is one place where you can experiment. Men are always proud of their chest and making him feel wanted will captivate him. It will make him feel more confident and appreciated. Stimulating his chest with your tongue can create magic inside him.
The neck and ears play a very crucial part. These zones are highly sensitive. Using your tongue in these areas can get it going for you sooner than you think it will.
Just as Osho says, "Be a witness of sex too. Don't be the controller of it. Don't try to forcibly bring it under control, remain a witness of it too. Just as you are a witness of everything else, remain a witness of sex too" It is important to not view it as a bad thing.
A sizzling sex life can be achieved by doing these simple actions. It should be bias free and if your partner likes it, what's the harm?
Some spices can enhance your lustful performance
India is the land of spices and the second-most populous country in the world. Though the two facts sound disarrayed, they are actually linked! Research proves that our sex life gets affected (and spiced up) by some spices.
Fenugreek seeds: Saponins which can be found in fenugreek seeds play a role in increasing the production of testosterone, the male hormones, which, in turn, causes the raise in male libido.
Cardamom: These green wonders increase energy and relieve fatigue, and help you rock your love making process.
Clove: They heat up the body and maybe that's what increases the hotness quotient on bed!
Fennel: Saunf, as they are called in Hindi, contain an estrogen-like substance (estirol) that turns out libido. So careful before you grab a handful of it at a restaurant after dinner.
Ginseng: It helps improve male erectile dysfunction (ED)
Saffron: There's a reason why old Hindi films had saasumas forcing bahus to add saffron to the milk on the first night. And you thought it was just for a fair child!
Nutmeg: It's one of the most popular natural aphrodisiacs. Research proves that nutmeg has the same effect on mating behavior as Viagra. Sprinkle some in your kheer for a dirty night!
Cloves: They boost your energy levels. They also have one of the best aromatherapy scents that help improve your sexual behaviour.
Garlic: Eating green chilies with garlic is an old (tried and tested) way of enjoying sex for a longer period. Peel off its top layers, crush cloves and then fry in butter, and your partner is ready to be a nutter!
Ginger: Garlic's 'g' brother helps you tingle the 'G' spot with ease. It increases sex drive and stimulates sexual performance.
So before you start your performance, hit to the kitchen. Get lusty and spicy!
A herb used to add flavour to Indian curries can also spice up our sex lives, according to a new study.
Researchers found that men taking fenugreekcan boost their sex drive by at least a quarter.
Sixty healthy men aged between 25 and 52 took an extract of the herb twice a day for six weeks.
Their libido levels were monitored using a scoring system to assess any changes after three and six weeks.
Within six weeks, their scores had soared by an average of 16.1 to 20.6, a 28 per cent rise, reports the Daily Mail .
Meanwhile, another group of men taking dummy pills saw their scores fall.
Fenugreek seeds contain compounds called saponins which are thought to stimulate production of male sex hormones including testosterone.
The tests were carried out by researchers from the Centre for Integrative Clinical and Molecular Medicine in Brisbane, Australia, who said: 'This study has demonstrated that there was significant improvement in sexual function and performance following treatment.'
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