Five long years of courtship followed by two years of marriage is just one example where sexmay unwillingly take a backseat.
The gravity of sexual intimacy between partners, married or otherwise, is needless to say diminishing, thanks to the whirlwind pace of life. So what can you really do to fuel the 'fun element' in your bedroom? Well, how about living your fantasies...how about some naughty 'role-playing'?
Spice it up, baby!
No marriage can survive without sex. It might come across as a radical statement but in an attempt to tone it down, let's say, no maritalrelationship can survive without sex for a long time. Sad, but true, is the fact that every relationship goes through the 'phase' and one of the interesting ways to avoid reaching the brim is to introduce some excitement. Enter, role-play! And no, there's nothing dirty about it. Drop the sissy tag and accept the challenge. For Anisha, role-playing happened soon after her first year of marriage. "My hubby and I are quite adventurous by nature but unfortunately both of us ended up choosing boring professions. Both of us are banking professionals and we decided not to let the monotony of our work seep into our bedroom", she says.
Don't be shy
Emotions are not detached from a sexual act and hence the feeling of oneness, mutual pleasure and bonding must be taken care of. As they say the solution to most problems lies in communicating it. "It is very important to talk to your partner and gauge his opinion. Find out how comfortable he/she is or if they have any inhibitions", says 35-year-old Monica, a homemaker and mother who was introduced to the kinky side of sex by her better half only six months ago. She goes on "We had become a boring couple especially after Ayushi, my daughter was born. We decided to go on a second honeymoon to Thailand and it was then that he said he'd want to try something different." So, was she nervous? "At first it was very weird, I was shy and apprehensive. Then he told me to think of it as a fancy dress competition. That eased things to an extent, and I went with the flow", she adds.
From bedroom to fantasy-room
Fantasies are often distanced from realities and that is why we fear pronouncing them, more so when the imagination is sexual in nature. Only a few lucky ones get a chance to live their fantasies, and to avoid treading the path of adultery, try enacting the wild dreams with your partner. According to Sr Consultant Psychiatrist & Psychotherapist Dr Sameer Malhotra, "The nature of fantasies would depend on one's personality, upbringing, choices and understanding of their partner's emotions. In the process of performing the inspired roles one can assume postures to comfort each other, stimulate each other's erogenous spots and raise it to a level of mutual arousal towards a common feeling of oneness. Only then both the partners will be able to bond."
Is role-play the only solution?
Rajat and Malvika were going through a rough patch in their relationship and were soon planning to tie the knot. Their difference of opinions and misunderstandings had almost convinced them that they were incompatible. That's when a close friend consulted them to explore the nuances of an exciting sex life, which has an overall healthy effect on people's lives. "This is like a new chapter for us and we look forward to each other. It adds humour to the act and reveals the sexier side of us", Rajat sums it up.
Be naughty. Be wicked. Be different.
Don't even think about the stale ideas - master and slave, teacher and student and the likes. Try something different, something that's playful yet has dignity. Ideas are many but you've got to pick the one that would work best for your relationship.
- The star couple of Twilight Saga - Don the cape and pose as the drop dead gorgeous vampire and leave a love bite on her neck that she'll be proud to flaunt.
- A one-night stand...with your wife - Tell her to meet you at the bar. Once there, pretend to be strangers and use pick up lines only to go back home and end up in a hot love making session.
- Masquerade - Masks are a sure shot way of getting your partner in the mood. You could try some dialogues from famous movies to add to the drama.
- A movie scene - A passionate love making scene that both of you enjoy watching together could be replayed in your bedroom with you as the protagonist.
Let your imagination run wild to find out which role you'll play tonight!
A new study has exposed the dirty truth about men's underwear habits, revealing that one in five men do not even bother to change their underwear every day.
While 95 per cent of women don new knickers every morning, this figure drops to just 78 per cent of men in Britain.
Latest research into the nation's laundry habits finds only 87 per cent of all British adults change their pants and socks on a daily basis.
Regionally, those in the southeast and East Anglia are the most fastidious about changing their underwear, with almost 91 per cent changing their socks and pants on a daily basis compared to just 81 per cent of those living in the northwest.
Singletons are much less likely to put on fresh undies than their married counterparts - 82 per cent versus 88 per cent, said market analysts Mintel.
"There is a distinct whiff of laziness among men in the UK today when it comes to underwear," the Daily Mail quoted Richard Caines, senior consumer analyst, as saying.
"You might assume that for personal hygiene reasons everyone puts on clean underwear when they get dressed at the start of the day, yet only eight in 10 men appear to be doing so."
"It seems that the influence of a partner is a positive one when it comes to changing underwear and socks, with those who are married more likely to change their underwear on a daily basis," he added.
When it comes to clothes washing, 42 per cent of British households put on a wash two or three times a week, meanwhile, almost four in ten households put on four or more wash loads a week.
Meanwhile, the study found, ironing tops the list of the nation's most hated laundry tasks.
A new survey has revealed the top 20 trickswomen employ to make themselves feelseductive.
A simple spray of favourite perfume comes top of the list for helping women feel sexy.
A new hairdo and a happy smile also rank highly.
Women also hailed settling down into a warm bath, showing off their well-maintained legs and wearing a push-up bra as quick fixes for achieving the "it" factor.
The study commissioned by UK's health and beauty retailer, Superdrug, also revealed that the average woman only feels truly irresistible once a week - usually on a Saturday night.
"This poll clearly indicates that while women know exactly what they have to do in order to feel sexy, they obviously aren't doing it often enough," the Daily Express quoted Sara Wolverson of Superdrug as saying. "Maintaining a beautiful, polished appearance can take time - something most busy women don't have enough of. "But with a little bit of effort, such as a splash of scent, a pair of fluttering false lashes and a big smile, ladies can feel confident and incredible," she stated. The study of 2,000 women found more than half of those polled consider a simple spritz of perfume was all it took to make them feel special. More than one third said a new hair colour or highlights made them feel sexy. The poll also revealed that women feel sexier if they spend hours getting ready. Other contributors to a sexy look include waxing, applying an all-over fake tan and straightening or curling hair, exercising religiously, wearing a tight-fitting top, a short skirt andjewellery.
A simple spray of favourite perfume comes top of the list for helping women feel sexy.
A new hairdo and a happy smile also rank highly.
Women also hailed settling down into a warm bath, showing off their well-maintained legs and wearing a push-up bra as quick fixes for achieving the "it" factor.
The study commissioned by UK's health and beauty retailer, Superdrug, also revealed that the average woman only feels truly irresistible once a week - usually on a Saturday night.
"This poll clearly indicates that while women know exactly what they have to do in order to feel sexy, they obviously aren't doing it often enough," the Daily Express quoted Sara Wolverson of Superdrug as saying. "Maintaining a beautiful, polished appearance can take time - something most busy women don't have enough of. "But with a little bit of effort, such as a splash of scent, a pair of fluttering false lashes and a big smile, ladies can feel confident and incredible," she stated. The study of 2,000 women found more than half of those polled consider a simple spritz of perfume was all it took to make them feel special. More than one third said a new hair colour or highlights made them feel sexy. The poll also revealed that women feel sexier if they spend hours getting ready. Other contributors to a sexy look include waxing, applying an all-over fake tan and straightening or curling hair, exercising religiously, wearing a tight-fitting top, a short skirt andjewellery.
Breastfeeding mothers are accusing Facebook of censorship again. In what's become an ongoing quarrel, Heather Stultz and Cece Buehner, founders of a "Respect the Breast"community page about breastfeeding on Facebook, are the latest activists to call out the social network for removing photos of nursing moms.Facebook pulled four breastfeeding photos last week, Stultz told The Huffington Post, adding that this isn't the first time the "Respect the Breast" page has been the target of breastfeeding censorship. Since November, a total of 38 breastfeeding photos have been taken down, and in response, she is circulating an online petition to draw attention to the issue, Stultz said.
"I've got 7,100 fans and they are pretty irate about it," she said. "We won't stop until we have a handwritten apology from Mark Zuckerberg." Stultz, who is from the Charlotte, N.C., area, and Buehner, of Oshkosh, Wis., founded the page in December in support of breastfeeders, according to its information area, which declares, "Breastfeeding is not sexual! it is a beautiful bond between mother and child that should be cherished!"
Facebook, for its part, has repeatedly said it supports the rights of breastfeeding mother and their posting of photos, however the photos must adhere to its policies. In a statement provided to The Huffington Post to respond to Stultz and Buehner's claims, a representative provided the following statement:
Facebook is glad that mothers and their families -- including many who work at Facebook -- use Facebook to share their parenting experiences, including breastfeeding their children. By uploading photos, joining groups, and engaging with different organizations, these families are able to share and connect on a very important topic, and we are thrilled they are using Facebook to do so.
When it comes to uploaded photos on Facebook, the vast majority of breastfeeding photos comply with our Statement of Rights and Responsibilities, which closely mirrors the policy that governs broadcast television, and which places limitations on nudity due to the presence of minors on our site. On some occasions, breastfeeding photos contain nudity -- for example an exposed breast that is not being used for feeding -- and therefore violate our terms. When such photos are reported to us and are found to violate our policies, the person who posted the photo is contacted, and the photos are removed.Our policies strive to fit the needs of a diverse community while respecting everyone’s interest in sharing content that is important to them, including experiences related to breastfeeding. It is important to note that any breastfeeding photos that are removed -- whether inappropriately or in accordance with our policies -- are only done so after being brought to our attention by other Facebook users who report them as violations and subsequently reviewed by Facebook.
These latest accusations come just weeks after Canadian breastfeeding activist Emma Kwasnica took her battle against Facebook public. Last month, Kwasnica told The Huffington Post that her account had been suspended five times for the posting of breastfeeding photos and she subsequently organized nurse-ins at several of Facebook's headquarters.
Nurse-ins have become a popular way for or breast-feeding activists, or "l'activists" as they are sometimes called, to protest what they view as a bigger societal problem: Doctors and the Surgeon General's Office alike pound on the "breast is best" drum, but when mothers try to abide by that mantra, they face harsh judgment from the public. Critics ranging from managers at community pools to employees at supposedly family-friendlyTarget stores and a women's only gym have instructed nursing mothers to cover up and go elsewhere to feed their babies.
April Ryley, who is fan of the "Respect the Breast" page, indicated to WCNC of Charlottethat she sees a problematic inconsistency when it comes to what Facebook deems acceptable.
“I was kind of surprised that Facebook wouldn’t have a problem with a girl not wearing pants, but does have a problem with a woman feeding her baby,” Ryley said.
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